Alright, more off-topic comment...
http://www.snopes.com/glurge/drawbridge.aspSo, I have a friend who is in a difficult situation that is not so different
. Which is it, save the kid and risk everything....or save everything and risk the kid? What if the "risk" is the result of a prodigal son's long-running chain of poor decisions? What if...what if....what if...?